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Young people today are less dependent on their parents than in the past

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Young people today are less dependent on their parents than in the past

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I think that young people today are less dependent on their parents than in the past. I have to say nowadays, based on advanced technology; young people’s diverse leisure activities and adults’ high rhythmical lives. The connections between parents and children become less and less, so students need to be self-independent.

Firstly, the technical developments lead students to be independent. 100 years ago, people even did not have the concept of the computer which people use as an important tool to do many kinds works now. And 100 years ago the information about something can only be got from young people’ parents, because they are the mentors of the young adults at that time. Young adults have no idea to look up the things they want from the other sources except their parents. However, students now can surf the internet by computer and get a lot of messages about what they want to know. They no longer need to ask advice of their parents.

Secondly, parents now have no time to stay with their children. They have to work hard in order to make more money. Take my friend, Marisa as an example. She is a 14 year-old child and her parents even have no time to stay with her. She has to thinks by herself every day when she reaches home, because her parents need to go to the different kinds of meeting until late at night. Not to mention the traffic jam in the city which always lasting to midnight. She needs to cook dinner, do some of the housework and something else. In contrast, in the past parents only work around home and do not have many dinner parties.

Thirdly, young children now have plenty kinds of extra-curricular activities that they can choose. In the past, people did not know what parkour means, the sport that young people enjoy. Also many more fancy sports were not invented in the past. The young adults in the past had to play what their parents enjoy because there are no teacher could teach but their parents, so they and their parents have the same hobby that can facilitate the relationship. However, students now can have their own interests which are different from their parents, in that way, they can be more self-standing.

Consequently, students of today are more self-supporting than before, for they can do things by using sophisticated technologies, parents’ busy lives and the interests that attract people to do.

 

4 years 31 weeks ago
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Tony Lou wrote:

Firstly, the technical developments lead students to be independent. 100 years ago, people even did not have the concept of the computer which people use as an important tool to do many kinds works now. And 100 years ago the information about something can only be got from young people’ parents, because they are the mentors of the young adults at that time. Young adults have no idea to look up the things they want from the other sources except their parents. However, students now can surf the internet by computer and get a lot of messages about what they want to know. They no longer need to ask advice of their parents.

This is a silly argument! Of course children may now use the internet to look things up. However were children not able to use encyclopedia's and books before? The assumption that everyone relied on their parents 100 years ago seems to me to be wrong (in the west at any rate) as we have had schooling for a couple of hundred years and books for longer.

Parents impart their experience as much as they do specific information and I think this has always been the case while there has been formal education.

4 years 31 weeks ago
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This really depends on what we consider to be dependent. Yes we have more ability to find our own answers (though that does not mean children are any better at finding a good answer - you still need to learn research skills and the internet does have a lot of scope for providing the wrong answers!) but that is not the only thing that determines someone's independence. What about money? Today children get educated up to 16 in most countries and many stay in full time education for much longer; often into their mid twenties. During this time they are often earning only very small amounts and as a result are dependent on family. (indeed a lot of people - myself included - spend the first couple of years of their working lives at home too, even if earning surely this is still being 'dependent'!) On the other hand in the 19th century most children would have been starting to work in their early teens and would be starting a family of their own by the time they were 16 or 17 and so it could be argued that they were much less dependent than children are today. 

4 years 31 weeks ago
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My opinion is that young people want to create the impresion they are more independent than in the past.Mostly because  our society agrees with the early development of teens, moreover it even encourages it so that children are mini-adults in the way they dress, speak and even act.This doesn't necessarily mean they are more independent, because in some way they know mum and dad will always be there for them.

On the other hand, in the past people had more prejudices and therefore their way of thinking was more inside the box to say so.Maybe that's way young people nowadays seem to depend less on their parents,even though the youth from back then had to face the difficulties of life from an early age.

All in all, I think young people from today are overall more spoiled and dependent on their parents than those from the past,even though they are more open-minded than the latter .

4 years 31 weeks ago
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Otilia wrote:

My opinion is that young people want to create the impresion they are more independent than in the past.Mostly because  our society agrees with the early development of teens, moreover it even encourages it so that children are mini-adults in the way they dress, speak and even act.This doesn't necessarily mean they are more independent, because in some way they know mum and dad will always be there for them.

 

I really agree with this, because today young people strive to seem older than what they are, including when it comes to independence. It's all about growing up as fast as possible, looking older, and put up a tough face, but at the same time when they want something, they often expect their parents to provide it. 

Tony Lou :

Young adults may have access to more advanced technology now, and doesn't need to ask their parents for answers all the time, but why does that automatically make them more independent? Now many students simply type in a few words on google, click the first and best site they see, copy and paste what they want, and hand it in as their own. How is this independent thinking, stealing someone else's work?

When it comes to parents not being home as much as before, that depends a lot on their type of work. Yes, before the mom usually stayed at home with the children, but that didn't mean they didn't have to help out in the house. Actually, I'm pretty sure teenagers back then had to do a lot more than just keep their room tidy or empty the trash. Also, the working hours were usually a lot longer than today, so the parents, or at least the father, often came home pretty late.

Yes, young adults can choose to take part of different activities and hobbys than what their parents like more easily these days, but again, the costs and support of this is also now something that is almost expected of most children of their parents. If there's something they want, their mom and dad should give it to them. I doubt it was that presumed before.

4 years 25 weeks ago
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